My husband has the “perfect” idea to make our daughter’s Easter unforgettable. It’s my nightmare.

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Dear Care and Feeding,

Easter is still a month away, but my husband, “Jack,” and I are already in a dispute over a gift he wants to get for our 6-year-old daughter, “Alina.”

Alina is absolutely smitten with ducklings, and Jack thinks it would be fun to surprise her with one for Easter. Ten minutes on Google has me firmly convinced this would be an absolute disaster in terms of care requirements. My husband, however, is completely dismissive of what I learned. My greatest fear is that he will buy Alina a duckling anyway, leaving me to be thrust into the role of Asshole Parent when I’m the one who says it has to go.  What can I do to preempt this?

—Duckling Drama

Dear Duckling Drama,

The main issue, as I see it, is that your husband was dismissive of your concerns after you expressed them to him. But since he’s not the one writing in, I think you should confront him about how worried you are that he will make a decision about Alina without you, especially knowing how you feel about it. Explain to him your reasoning, yes, but express that it’s about more than just the duckling—it’s about being on the same page as parents.

You could make a compromise, such as giving it to her next year when she’s a little older, if she’s still interested, or getting him to agree to be the sole caretaker (that is, if you feel like you could even trust him to keep his word). But right now, I think your resentment would simply grow over the fact that he’s not listening to you and ignores your wishes. So before diving into the specifics of the potential duckling drama, address the elephant in the room.

—Arionne

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