Asking Eric: Mother refuses to accept the facts of cancer diagnosis

Dear Eric: My 87-year-old mother has pancreatic cancer. My husband and I moved out of state to live with her for four months while she went through radiation and enough of the recovery for her to live independently.

Her cancer is back after about a six-month reprieve. The doctors have said she cannot have more treatments due to health and age. She refuses palliative care and hospice.