My Husband Just Volunteered to Host His Entire Family at Our Home in Two Weeks. I’m Three Months Postpartum!

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Dear Care and Feeding,

My husband, “Bruce,” and I had twins three months ago, and to say it has been draining would be putting it mildly. My husband has just made it much worse.

His sister, “Heather,” just dropped the news on him that she broke her ankle at the ice rink yesterday. Heather and her husband were supposed to be hosting Easter for us, his brother (who is flying in with his family), and their parents and grandparents. Guess what? Bruce just volunteered us to step up! Easter is less than two weeks away, and the prospect of hosting that many people while caring for two 3-month-olds has me ready to pass out. My husband says he’ll help out, but I know from experience that’s an empty promise. I’m tempted to take the kids and drive to my sister’s, who lives three hours away, and spend Easter with her. Good idea?

—Easter Ambush

Dear Easter,

Thats a GREAT idea and I have an even better one: Go to your sister’s house, document your trip and explain why you’re there, go viral on TikTok and begin your new life as a single mom influencer.

In all seriousness, everyone is tripping: your husband, obviously, but also every other adult who agreed to come to your home without hearing from your mouth that you were willing to host a house full of folks for a holiday with twin babies that are still wet. I am mad at all of them, because I would never allow a family with 3-month-old twins host me for a big dinner, especially if one of the spouses was dead weight. Go to your sister’s house and have a peaceful weekend. I can count at least five grown-ups who will be at your home for Easter; between them, I’m sure they can come up with a nice dinner. Your husband will either learn his lesson, which is that hosting is a lot of work for the person who is actually hosting, or he is broken beyond repair, in which case I suggest considering the TikTok idea.

—Jamilah

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