Bella Hadid, a Libra.
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Today Venus in Libra links up with both Uranus and Pluto (in Gemini and Aquarius, respectively). With all this energy in the brainy, communicative air signs, it’s a good day to think creatively and share your thoughts with the people around you. In the morning, you could forge surprisingly meaningful connections with people who aren’t your usual type, so keep an open mind. In the evening, don’t shy away from intense, even potentially painful conversations — if you’re brave enough to go deep, you’ll be rewarded with intimacy.
You sometimes forget that not everyone is as comfortable speaking their mind as you are. Some people might be afraid of being judged; others might think that there’s no room for them to participate in the conversation. So today, remember that just because someone might seem quiet, that doesn’t mean they have nothing to say, and try to make space for them to speak up. Invite your friends to share their ideas, and make it clear that you’ll genuinely listen — even if you don’t agree, or don’t particularly care about the topic at hand.
The more attached you are to doing everything your own way, the harder it is to work with others. There’s a difference between real teamwork and just expecting others to do your bidding — and sometimes, even when you say you want to collaborate, what you really want is for everyone else to do things your way. But today, don’t let your stubbornness get in the way of team work. Ideally, though, when you’re working alongside others, everyone’s input is valued equally, everyone is open to new ideas, and ultimately, everyone grows from the experience.
Sometimes, it’s hard to trust that the people around you will understand your ideas or pick up on your sense of humor. You worry that they’ll just think you’re talking too much or that your ideas are strange — so it can be tempting to overexplain every little comment you make. Today, though, try to have a bit more trust in the people around you. There will always be those you don’t see eye to eye with, but they aren’t representative of the whole; there’s no need to adjust everything you say for the people who simply don’t get you.
You don’t see yourself as someone who’s quick to lose your cool, but lately, it’s felt like even the tiniest problems can set you off and ruin your entire day. It’s as though your reserves of patience have run dry, and you’re now ready to lash out at the slightest infraction. Today, though, you might find that it’s easier to access your old sense of calm composure. This doesn’t mean that you don’t care when things go wrong, or that you’re not hurt or irritated when others mess up your plans, only that you’re better able to stay balanced and keep moving.
You try to project an aura of warmth and confidence to the people around you — but while the version of yourself that you show to others is real, it isn’t all that you are. Sometimes you get self-conscious, or you feel sensitive and quiet, or you’re just irritable. Today, try to remember that your friends are multifaceted, too. Most people are deeper and more complicated than they first appear, and if you give them space to show the sides of themselves they usually keep hidden, you might be surprised by what you find.
You understand that developing new skills requires time and commitment; you’re not likely to try something once and discover you’re a prodigy. Because of this, it can seem smartest to continue developing the skills you already have, rather than starting over as a beginner. Today, though, if you try something new, you might discover you love it — and you might want to completely devote your time to it. Remember that there’s no rule that says you must continue on the same path you’ve always been on: If a new possibility presents itself, there’s no reason not to explore it.
When you’ve been struggling with the same problem for a long time, it’s easy to get stuck in a rut. You keep running through the same ideas, coming up with the same solutions, and ultimately convincing yourself that they wouldn’t work. Everything feels stale — so today, it could help to talk to new people about what you’re going through. They might have ideas you haven’t yet thought of, or help you to see the same old facts in a new light. With their help, you might discover useful possibilities you hadn’t even considered.
There are some things that you’d prefer not to share with others — not secrets, exactly, just feelings or ideas or memories you’d rather keep to yourself. Today, though, you might accidentally reveal more than you intended. And while it could be stressful in the moment, it’s likely to be much less embarrassing than you feared — if anything, it’s more likely to feel freeing. This doesn’t mean you need to go around discussing private matters with anyone who asks, it just means that if you do share more than you meant to, it’s probably not a bad thing.
It’s easy to feel like you have an obligation to share your friendship with anyone who wants it, and to spend time with anyone who seeks out your company. And for the most part, you don’t mind doing just that, since you’re naturally generous with your affections. Today, though, remember that you don’t have to make time for the people you dislike, or the people who don’t actually seem to value or care about you. You’re allowed to reserve your time for the people who love you and make you feel good about yourself.
Being nice to others tends to pay off for you in surprising ways — but if you’re kind and helpful only in the hopes that there will be some reward in it for you, it’s unlikely to turn out that way. Most people are good at sensing insincerity, and they’ll respond with suspicion. So today, try to be good to people simply for its own sake, because you enjoy building relationships and making others’ lives easier. If you can release the expectation that every interaction is transactional in some way, it’ll become easier to enjoy others’ company.
You can sometimes get a little defensive around new people — you worry that they won’t like or understand you, so you try to get ahead of the game by pre-emptively deciding to dislike them. Most of the time, though, this attitude ends up doing more harm than good. Today, lots of people — even the ones you’d least expect — could be completely charmed by you, if you just give them the chance. Assume that most people you encounter are operating in good faith; don’t close the door to new connections out of insecurity or fear.
The quickest and most practical way to smooth over your differences with others can be to pretend that they simply don’t exist. If you collectively agree not to acknowledge your disagreements, then you can go about your business relatively comfortably. Today, however, it might be impossible to just ignore the problems. So for now, it might be better to just admit that there are serious points of contention, and to focus on finding the commonalities that exist in spite of your differences.
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